Five Ways to Identify Whether You’re a Contingency Plan or a Time Passer
So it was some time last week where my discovery was made, the time was, errrrmmm can’t remember but I know it was definitely booty call hours. I was chatting to a pretty young thing on the phone, Barry White was the tone, Donell Jones-“Do you wanna” was the zone…….Convo was going over smooth, which was the nature of our convos for the last 5 months, but tonight’s convo was more intense, as this was the convo (I like saying convo) where she dropped the “BOOM SHAKE SHAKE SHAKE THE ROOM” bomb shell….
“Maverick you’re such an amazing guy and I enjoy talking to you …….. …….(MANY JARGONS LATER) I’m seeing a next guy and I ‘really appreciate’ that you have helped me grow as a person and helped me decipher what type of a guy I want” …. “PARR”
It all began to click from that moment; for the oh so great and womanising Maverick was nothing more than a back up plan, HOUSE BOY, sucker, confidence booster ….All the damn things you can think of other than a lover or potential partner (YES YOU THOUGHT IT RIGHT, I CONSIDERED HAVING A SERIOUS RELATION WITH THIS WOMAN, CAN U IMAGINE THE INSULT?).
Many hate texts and broken hearts later, I realised The trend, the bars, The crap that not only woman drop but people in general drop when tagging you along (but for the sake of the discussion women will be used as the enemy.)
So after meeting with my fellow BWNG and drawing on our experiences we concluded that the signs are very much there but we choose to ignore them, for reasons which can’t be explained (for now) however we did all agree that pride may be an aiding factor. But no ….NO LONGER SHALL WE IGNORE; below will give five of the many examples to identify when you’re nothing more than a contingent plan or time-passer.
1. LETS JUST TAKE THINGS SLOW
Ok granted we can take things slow, I don’t disagree with it however when we have been going at the same pace for more than 3 months and for no reason out the blue you want to emphasis the need to go slow then a eyebrow needs to raised. This is a tool to reframe the guy from trying to go to the next level even though the situation permits him too…..PARRR
2. I HAVENT DONE THIS BEFORE SO GIVE ME TIME TO ADJUST
Haven’t done what before? What a silly statement, once again its another statement which woman in particular use in order to discourage you but still keep you interested, by making you feel your not her typical type but you should feel good because she MAY consider …Ultimate Bull crap….This is nothing more than a psychological ploy to keep you there and give her the attention she desires while she waits for the next best thing to come along.
3. I HAD A REAL BAD BREAK UP SO I JUST NEED SOME ME TIME
Similar to the first statement this is granted in the initial stages however after several dates and numerous interaction you still want to drop such a PARR?… you deserve to be driven to Scotland with no jacket or shoes and left stranded with 10 pence to use for the phone box. Your travel back to the London will be enough time for you to get over such a break up before wasting a guys time.
4. YOU’RE SUCH A REALLY NICE FRIEND
Ok so what does that mean? In addition to the appalling vocabulary it is such an insulting statement…I’m good enough to be your friend but not anything more?….. because I know when that statement left your mouth it was never with the intention of gratitude but rather one to make me realise I’m not good enough to be anything more; which exemplifies the fact there sre so many single woman, as they fail to realise a good relationship requires a great friendship.
5. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU BUT IT’S WHERE I’M AT, AT THE MOMENT IN MY LIFE BUT I STILL WANNA GET TO KNOW YOU
…….(DOES THIS OUND FAMILIAR?) I’m too affected by this statement to elaborate….WHERE IS THE WOODEN SPOON SO I CAN FIND THIS GIRL…..JHEEZE
Be MARVEL
Stay slick like RICK
MAVERICK
What’s your verdict people? Do those signs seem familiar? What other signs suggest contingency plan or time passer? Holla at your boys!
12 comments on “Five Ways to Identify Whether You’re a Contingency Plan or a Time Passer”
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looooool! I’m gonna stoke the fire…all of those bars chicks use, she learnt them from the men that fed her the same bull at one time or another. Trust me!!
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loooooooooooool, it is funny right? I agree with the above comment you men out there also
have your own version of lines to suggest a time passer too! Are you shocked or just annoyed
such lines have been used on you? lol, Dont worry Maverick, their loss
lol. Also whats wrong
with just being a nice friend, its not about not being good enough to be with, it could simply just
be that she does not feel ‘that kind’ of chemistry with the person hence why they are just friends!
Friendship love! loooolEnjoyed your rant though! looking forward to more!
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Jokes. It seems you understand women very well, you must have A LOT of experience.
All the points you have made simply mean ‘I don’t “liiiiiike” you (like that’, or ‘you don’t make me lose control like that, soz)’. ‘But we can be friends’. Lol. 4 Is the stone coldest killer insult of the pack, lol. That one never, ever, ever, fails a sistah. You can’t fight being a really good friend..?!!A good relationship really does require a great friendship, and most women do not quite realise that..God knows why. They ought to go to church or get relationship coaching or sutin, but all things being equal, if a woman don’t fancy you it don’t matter hooow great your friendship is. Friends don’t just get free booty calls for the sake of it. Your already friends, its enough. Same way the not so cute baby don’t get its cheeks chubbed, just cos it’s a baby. You just don’t feel the urge. Infact you just feel the urrghh. LOOOOOOOOL.
Btw Bull Crap is my ‘word’. ;-/
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learnt from the best baby!
we women were just humble and strong enough to get over it silently, it’s like when guys get a small cold the world knows about it, but women just keep going to work, cooking the dinner and stroking the ego (biggest job of all)
get a grip Maverick! muwhahhaahahahaha!
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Loving the post (although I’m soooooo late!)
But maybe BWNG need to write a part 2. which looks at identifying several common reasons why some guys seem to regularly be that time passer or contingency plan?
Just a thought.
It could solve many a men’s problems and avoid the emotional distress that follows aka Maverick’s hate text and wooden spoon!
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This is soooo true!
I now see all the warning signs of being a contingency plan!
Its not just women who come up with this claptrap roundabout way, guys do too! I dated a brother for 7 months and we just went round in circles, I just couldn’t see any progress, especially when he used lines 1,2,3 and 5 all the time whenever it got serious.
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looooooooool