Grown Man Swag
So a new year has started and for many men out there this also means new aims and objectives/resolutions which will revolve around a mixture of things the world and themselves have deemed as the real definition of a man. Make more money, Drive a bigger or nicer car, Get hench or die trying, avoid mad women, Commitment, being more religiously in tune etc etc. Me? I’ve put a couple of the above on my list and have also added maintenance of simple but effective swag (for a lack of a better word).
As a teen I used to think the Versace shirts with the top three buttons open and sunglasses often worn by the likes of P before he was Diddy, The Rock and pretty much every R&B brother was the definition of swag. But growing up I realised the likes of Eric Benet, Idris Elba and Maxwell were actually keeping it quite simple with the smart jeans and top which encapsulated the definition of simplicity and for many women a visual definition of a man. Could you imagine your dad dressing like Omarion or one of the kids from the New Boyz or even worse Lil Wayne?. If he did then I have two words for you Mid-Life Crisis (or is that three?).
Now this post isn’t aimed in guiding you to achieve the items mentioned above however as a Brother With No Game I simply try to help in identifying the simple things we have more control over. There are 5 items a brother trying to make that transition from boyhood to manhood should consider possessing/maintaining, remember judgement is usually made before a word is spoken.
The most required item and something I think every brother should have in their locker is a fine time piece . Now I’m not talking high life watches where the bezel looks like it’s been dipped in glue and then drowned in an ocean of diamond cluster; neither does it need to look like you have a 60 carat Gold time piece on your wrist. Simplicity is key so a nice simple piece whether steel or gold will do the trick.
They say alot can be said about a man by his watch, a loud watch signifies wealth and plenty of confidence but some could signify insecurities or early life hardship and as a result the need for others to recognise ones achievements. A simple watch could imply a man who is assured of himself and recognises the need to go about his business with an appreciation for time. Imagine a beautiful woman asking you for the time and you don’t have a watch some would say that was an opening gone although many may argue that I could ceck the time on my phone however to me that’s young
Lady: Excuse me do you have the time?
Guy: Yes I do, its 6:45..are you in a rush? (success)
Same scenario but with the use of the phone.
Lady: Excuse me, Do you have the time?
Guy: – Yes I do…somewhere, let me just check
**20 seconds later, whilst still tapping himself down**
Guy: I’m sure I have it here somewhere
Lady: (laughs) you could start with your wrist
Guy: Oh I don’t have a watch was looking for my phone
Lady: In fact never mind…
Guy: I’m sure its somewhere I just had it on me
*lady walks off**
Moral of the story, get a watch it’s a must for all men
Although this like your teeth is an item which is rarely seen, the thing to note is you never know who is inspecting; those moments when a woman compliments you on your teeth randomly…did you expect it? Probably not, however its something which catches women’s attention and can swing her mind in whether to engage in kissing you. Similarly having a decent looking wallet can sometimes be that last seal of approval before she opts to take your business card.
A nice wallet for me is near enough as important as possessing a watch and similar to a watch it doesn’t need to be flashy neither does it need to be run down. The image of a bulky pocket and coins jingling reminds me very much of secondary school, also I’m sure bringing out a large amount of cash just to get to your business cards wouldn’t sit well at work with both senior staff or a client (though a golddigger will do cartwheels and olympic backflips). If in doubt then its worth investing in a money clip or a coin holder however a good old fashioned wallet should be the preferred option.
Speaking to most women nowadays they will tell you the first thing they notice on a man is his shoes, in the city especially there is the notion that a lot can be said about a man by the watch on his wrist and the shoes on his feet. Footwear has the ability to make an outfit a winner or a sore loser, so just based on that its fair to say that footwear constitutes a large part towards a man’s outfit. Shoes which still maintain the smart look without the need of a suit is a winner for example … Marlow tassel loafers or boat shoes both of which maintain the tailored appearance even with a pair of jeans.
Growing up I use to tell everyone if your shoes and jacket is grown then the outfit is grown no matter the jeans or the top worn. Watching TV/Movies growing up all the greats had a dope jacket, The Fonz, Axl Foley, Terminator, Neo, Alonzo Harris etc. Life lessons taught me that wearing an adidas tracksuit hoodie over a shirt isn’t grown. A grown jacket equates to a grown man; examples include a good old trench coat for work, a pea coat for a more dress down look however still maintaining the mature appearance and if you really want to push the boat out then a nice chesterfield jacket would do more than the trick. Nice
As Signs of the Disiac Part 1 stated, never underestimate the importance of smell as women surely aren’. The right smell will have a woman turn her neck back at you as you walk past, make conversation with you just to get a whiff or have her saying and doing things she claims she’s never done before. Oh its true. This combined with the other 4 items is one which can create a image about the type of person you possibly could be and I’m pretty sure smelling right is an image you’d want even your enemies to have of you.
There you have the 5 simple items which if not a real man but an acting man should have a greater sense of knowledge about, if not already posses all the mentioned above..remember you can’t change first impressions so make the first interaction without actual interaction count.
Ladies and Gents do you agree? What other items help heighten the male image? Brothers what styles of watch, afterhsave, shoes and jackets do you wear? Enlighten me!