Hateonomics: The emotions that govern our self esteem
Lets get straight to the point. The word “haters” has to be one of the most annoying terms in the Oxford dictionary. I mean seriously 90% of the people that think they have haters, really don’t have haters, just people whose opinions don’t match theirs.
Recently an artist shared his music with his fans on Twitter and openly asked for their opinion on the songs. It all started well with some positive feedback from a couple of followers – who later turned out to be his friends-. But as expected there was a sudden influx of people who didn’t quite dig dude’s music. What followed was a twitter crossfire between the artist and some fans.
As you probably guessed at some stage the artist ended up calling everyone a hater and that they feared his success. It was then I realised that the word hater was becoming a cop out for people who can no longer defend themselves in an argument. It is like prematurely calling someone racist or homophobic, there is no coming back from that. This is why people end up coming up with stupid gimmicks and responses when they are unfairly called racist.
“I cant be racist, I have black friends”
We laugh at this joke all the time, but when you are hit off guard with accusation of being something you’re not, your brain has not got time to process a viable argument back. Its the same as someone calling you a hater, I mean how do you prove that your not a hater.
Premature: “You’re a hater, you never want to see me succeed”
Friend: “If I were a hater, I would have slept with your girl when she stayed over mines”
If you happen to be one of the people that thinks everyone with some negative feedback is a hater, then maybe you need to reevaluate the formulas in which lead you to come up with that summary. I do agree that there are haters out there, but lets be honest most of us aren’t worth hating on. Myself included. For example when I get a negative comment on any of my posts, as much as it can be difficult to swallow – no homo-, I realise that I cannot please everyone and not everyone has an motive to hate.
Here are the reasons why you aren’t that important:
- You probably don’t even cross the person’s mind, who you claim to be a hater. So before you can dismiss someone as a hater ask yourself: is there a valid reason to why this particular person would be envious of you?
- Do your ambitions collide or conflict in any shape or form. Is there a possibility that they see you as competition?
- Can 90% of people’s opinion – who have no reason to be bias i.e.: not your friend- all be hate?
But our whole perspective is wack right about now, with an over pessimistic view of the world that everybody is a hater, you are not Justin Bieber. Now that geezer has haters. But there is a war going on outside no man is safe from.
On the song “Make The World Go around” – Nas has a line that best summarises this emotional warfare that we are living in and to make the matter worse, its more dudes then chicks doing getting caught up on the hype.
“…I am a hatred addict, I need faces mad with frowns when I am around or I wasted fabric…”
It is sad when people’s happiness is based on someone else’s unhappiness. Brothers go shopping to stunt on other brothers like its a beauty contest. I remember when brothers use to want to impress women, now brothers are trying to impress other brothers. When I was in College the formula to a guys self esteem was:
SELF ESTEEM = New Trainers (Sneakers) + Pretty girl + Being the best on Pro Evo.
SELF ESTEEM = Getting others mad
We went from one extreme to the other, from gangster’ed out brothers that never danced in the rave to cliques of metrosexual moisturised brothers competing on who has the best swag. Can you imagine if “Menace II Society” was revised in 2011″?
Goon One: “Yo G, you know that n*gga that stunted on us with the 6 series convertible outside of Stratford Rex? Well I know where his mum rests at. They got a BBQ popping off on Sunday, come we payback these n*ggaz”
Goon Two: “You mean the one with the red LV interior and be smelling all good with the Issey Miyake fragrance?
Goon One: “Yeah man, the caramel complexion brother with the level 2.5 fade, thats him, Lets ride”
Goon One: “We strapped? Don’t be bringing that red Gucci strap belt because that was last season s*it, only 2011 Winter collection.”
*Driving slow past the BBQ, then park up and jump out the car*
Goon Two: “Whats good!? you see the Audemars on my wrist? Twista had this one in the Source”
On a serious note, alot of brothers are talking about swag because they have no substance.
How to Spot a real Hater?
Now, as I stated they are haters but most of us just aren’t big enough a deal to have any. But there are dudes out there that get some serious hate. In order to find the biggest hater in the world you will have to find the most loved person in the world. It may no longer be the case but 3 years ago a certain Barrack Obama was seen as the most loveable character on the planet. As we all know with that comes haters, so I bring you the biggest hater on planet earth
James David Manning Phd. In the words of Mase this brothers Phd must seriously be for a Player Haters Degree, because this brother has all characteristics of a true hater. In this video dude shows the five key elements of a hater.
1. Evidence of self hate 2. Not a good thing to say about anyone 3. Name calling 4. Flawed proof and reasoning 5. Shouting for no reason
Enough of my rant about haters and so called hated, but I just wanted to highlight my frustration on the issue and hopefully get some opinion from y’all.
Peace and Love…even to Mr Manning.