Romeo Must Die
Disclaimer *Romeo is not a real individual but refers to a concept very similar to a Casanova (he just gets dismissed as a player). It is a man who gives his absolute all jumps through a few hoops and then some, to meet, get with and keep a woman, *
I know I know the description is kinda random and most women will just look at that and think “well he just sounds like a great guy”. After all this is the guy that tries ever so hard for women, takes them on dates that are not proportional to his salary, showers women with lavish gifts he can’t afford, spits lyrics to you that sound like they are fresh out a poetry book and makes promises he knows he cant keep, yeah he really is a lovely guy! Although its rare to find a man who does what you saw in the video and even if he did you might think it a touch cheesy the idea is still a nice one rooted in the female subconscious. He makes women feel special, and every woman wants to be a spoilt. Somehow as men we seem to believe we are fighting it out for a small group of good women to settle with so each of us must indulge in a game of how far can you go to prove your worth and get your Romeo on; and if you don’t subscribe to this, other men will be killing your game right now by going all out and leaving you to receive subliminal descriptions of what he (some other guy) did for her.
From young we have always been influenced by the media. For men, most of the TV/Film characters we aspired to be, beat people up, had lots of women and drank strong spirits. For women it was pretty women who dressed up to look prettier and waited for ‘Prince Charming’ to sweep her off her feet and give you the trademark cheesy ending. This as well as society formed part of understanding of our supposed gender roles and expectations in life and explains some of our adult behaviour.
You know she wants to be Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty or Nina from Love Jones deep down and you wanted to be James Bond, the real life Denzel Washington or Marlo Stansfield on weekdays. She wants the ending with the white dress while you were more interested in the scene with no dress because hey, we are just different like that. Fast forward a few years and there’s no surprise men are running around acting up (woof woof) and single women are asking that annoying question Where’s Wale? (holla at my boy Maverick he has a theory). Amongst the midst of this chaos though however is “The dating game”.
Biological clocks are ticking and Men, yes I said it MEN are a wanted commodity. I stress on men not to imply that women are not also a wanted commodity but to remind you that London is far from evenly populated when you break it down for the daters.
We have more women than men in London full stop and more women in higher education than men, 57-43% ratio in London last time I checked. From my understanding women prefer to date educated men (I may be wrong here but it’s my own stats so imma run with it). If you break this down on a micro-level and factor in the low percentage of black people in London period, incarcerated black males and women’s reluctance to date outside there race which is obviously no trouble for black men lol. The average eligible black female outnumbers men quite significantly (I had way too much time to do this maths). That man who will potentially be a good boyfriend, father and in sadly a minority of cases Husband, is in short supply. The problem however faced for women nowadays is that men know this and are taking FULL advantage! Still despite these facts women have attempted to and still attempt to pull the wool over our eyes and misinform us of our position. We have been decieved brothers, its a conspiracy!
A prime example. You will always be told when you meet a good woman you gotta treat her right, make her feel special and show her respect all of which is true; its on those posters like profile pictures with cheesy messages, statuses, books, everywhere! However when do you ever hear the same said of a man?…. errr never. Added on to these things is also a whole heap of bullcrap about how a good woman is one in a million (very poor maths) and an insanely long list of all the stuff you have got to do to impress a woman so she MIGHT want to be with you. Ask a man what he wants….F*** him, feed him and motivate him and he will love you, this is an almost universal law, bar the occasional cry of “she needs to have a bumper too though blood”. Ask a woman what she wants and answers will vary from Humour, Intelligence, Strength, Ambition, Drive, a car less than 5 years old a bank account with sufficient funds for Gilgamesh Blue Elephant Nandos Busaba Nobu, concert tickets fortnightly and most importantly a man who will make you the MOST important thing in his life. I’m out of breath actually typing this but could go on forever with wants, dont believe me check these cheeky women out in this video
“Romeo Romeo where for art thou Romeo? come in to my life and sweep me off my feet; make me feel loved; show me passion; treat me like a princess; where the hell are you!!!?!”
This is a nice dream which anyone in a free thinking society should be entitled to, however one should consider changing game plan if still single at 25 and this fairytale should possibly be dismissed as fantasy and replaced by the script of either Baby Boy or 40 Year Old Virgin.
If you are a woman who wants a man with humour, please do not be dry and say hardly anything but gossip for days, go buy Eddie Murphy Raw on DVD and knock yourself out no one cares! You cannot 
want a man with ambition and a good job and not be expected to possess this yourself. I’m amazed how some women specialise in confusing brothers, attempting to make yourself look whatever it is you are trying to do and then put brothers down over job titles.
Convo: Her: “I’m not a secretary cheeky I’m in communications” Him: “What do you do?” Her: “I answer the phone and communicate messages to my manager and team, make a few outbound calls and make sure everything is in order, make sure we got alot of………………….” yawn this is way too much explanation; my subconscious mind will put you in the secretary category since your job began with a phone call which was NOT for you (how dare you lecture me on ambition and job titles). You also can’t want to be treated like a princess if you do not treat him like a Prince. If he’s wining and dining and entertaining you with all this charisma you so wanted, whilst being spontaneous every so often you better step your game up to match him, otherwise he is going to do “the mathematics” and realise there are a few more of you to him out there *picks up bb and pings Shaniqua to see what shes saying since you said nothing*. You most definitely cant want to go on dates to lavish places which you would not plan to take the guy to and pick up the bill yourself; so Nandos is running out here unless I have seen what colour your bank card is on at least 2 occasions and I don’t mean the slow pull, I’m waiting for you to say ‘no I’ll pay‘.
Personally considering all the no good men complaints I have never understood why women dont see a man they want and just go for it themselves realising “I’m the minority here so I want first dibs at the good men” instead of waiting to be swept off into the Lagos sunset. A simple hello and a compliment will do for starters, just like guys do and it gets a conversation going. Men secretly despise always being the aggressor and an occasional change of approach may sometimes favour a woman. Women seem to tell me that if they make the first move on a man he will think she’s easy… my conclusion is that will only be your case if you feel that you havent got anything to throw at him except p***y.
Don't be deceived, this is a gang!
The older males in my household always reiterated to me “Women is a gang” a sisterhood/organisation loyal to their own kind and when you look for reason she will resort to the mantra of her organisation. Your logic is illogical to her as she believes you think with your penis and her with her brain. Right now I’m the guy who don’t believe in romance, bitter, sexist blah blah blah who wants to get laid on the cheap. All I am doing is standing for equal opps, so I say to all of my brothers with no game (the ones with game are doing just fine) “Dont do it”, absolutely nothing…gifts, dates, nothing. You are the limited resource, make her work for you! (just kidding you will be single watching porn on the net playing slow jams). I mean dont kill yourselves and bankrupt yourselves trying to impress, be you and that should be enough. Just make sure your women are aware she must match her expectations with what SHE brings to the table.
The concept of a Romeo is a dead one, he killed himself in the end like a chief (see what a loser) and we gotta move on to the next chapter people. If you want a partnership for the future your thoughts cannot be dominated by “I want I want “ there is no I in team; get your own confidence, your own charm, your own charisma, your own big job before you start screaming out that’s what you want from from men. Whatever happened to equality? because as far as I remember Juliet had no game just looked pretty and stood still. Remember there is a thin line between Don Juan and Emile Heskey.
Peace out!
Don Kwelu
@DonKwelu / @TheBWNG
Brothers and Sisters, Ladies and Gents, William and Kate, Ike and Tina what are your thoughts on Romeo? Speak on it!
19 comments on “Romeo Must Die”
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Are you telling guys to loose romance. I thought this site is pro-game! If you know women u’ll know they’re way more stubborn than us, so tryna form a male union is absurd and kinda gay. We’l loose that 1 all day. Every man needs to just do them I think.
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@j beezy, U got it a bit wrong nowhere was it said to lose romance (if any form of romance was defined here) and neither was there a call for a male union. I know a few man still that go super hard for women and getting taken for fools meanwhile next man scoops same chick with minimal effort. Or women who have similar stories of overly romantic men who they found out had 2 kids and a wife in Ghana, or a wifey on ends later down the line and she realises to him its a game. Point is alot of men are insecure and feel only confident by acting up to a formula (telling her what she wants to hear) which is NOT game and Some women have unrealistic wants. Respect your opinion bar the gay bit (if you said no homo would hv been cool) Thanks for reading!
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@Don Kwelu, lol I can see the argument from both your side. I feel that what J Beezy was trying to say that we should all have the freedom to play the game as we please. But as you have stated in the past there are dudes out here living the facade because of a fairytale prince persona that women have been led to believe exists and I would go as far as agreeing with you that they don’t at the level portrayed in the movies. So I would argue that J breezy is right to say everyman for their own, but at the same time are brothers really approaching gyal the way they genuinely want to or banking on whichever facade that can get them what they want?
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I do agree with this article, especially in the sense that woman better have all their stuff sorted before they start making demands from men and that men shouldn’t go tooo far and become Heskey’s lol, however….I do favour men going that extra mile especially when they are pursuing a woman as I believe that when in a relationship the woman should be taking such good care of her man that she’s made up that intial effort imbalance in no time!
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So what happens if said Juliet ‘royally’ (gotta keep it current) steps her game up – I’m talking, she’s pulling out her bank card after meals out (when appropriate), she’s ‘dougie-ing’ her way up the career ladder, she’s trading in Primark for ASOS/H&M/Next/Topshop, she’s reading it all from the FT to……the BWNG blogs (you may award me with my brownie points later) and basically ticking all the aforementioned metaphorical boxes….then……wait for it…..man like Romeo flops/chokes at the first major balcony scene – what would Don Kwelu advise our fair maiden to do in such a predicament???
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@Noddy, loool i if your asking me to be honest i suggest she keeps it moving. I never said paying for meals getting a good career is the recipe for the perfect equal and happiness. You cannot replace a man doing things off a checklist with a woman doing the same and expect a different result. They were only dating it didnt materialise big deal! she paid a few times looked the part just as he did. This sounds like there was no loser here unless Juliet thought she deserved a bit of bias here because if her name was Jermaine i doubt the violins will come out!
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I was literally thinking this same thing the other day – we as women always do this and its time to make sure we’ve got something to bring first. Of course, if you’re th ish ladies – go ahead! Find that guy that will complement your ‘greatness’ It always makes me cringe when I hear certain females talk: ‘hes got to be this/have that/drive this…’ SHAT AP (lol -sorry) Basically I completely agree with the tone of your post – guys, stop thinking all this poppin’ borrels and gucci gucci belt is what you need to do. Its not. Look after yourself, love God, BE YOU.
I will say I dnt think men will ever be seen as a limited resource, God created women as a help-meet/helper you’re created to want us..need us..mwahaha (sorry again). I also won’t be the kind of lady to approach a guy directly, rather I might do it subtly
lol. I’m a traditional kind of lady, I won’t make it any more difficult for you because I appreciate its hard enough as it is, but make that move! I certainly won’t…and we both know you will anyways hehe -
This was a sweet post ooh!
A few things that crossed my mind whilst reading. I totally get that some girls transitioning into ladies have their game all wrong. In today’s world it is very apparent that you should cut your coat accordingly (know thy self) and that if you open your mouth to a man and discuss ambition – aspiration as topics, he’s going to expect that your sh*t is tight. That being said, i think it’s fair play to be a young lady and chill with a secretarial/admin job….maybe your plan is to get with competent man, settle down (housewife) and have some kids *wink wink*.
One of the lines in this post that killed me was the “You most definitely cant want to go on dates to lavish places which you would not plan to take the guy to and pick up the bill yourself”
Firstly – who killed Romeo? … Secondly – Bring him back!
What qualities in life are you able to ascertain from your girl paying..offering to pay for one your dates?? That she’s unselfish..or what. If she ain’t your wife, she needn’t be paying for a thing. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with a girl paying for a date, but I don’t think a man should ever expect that. A woman should be showing you, she’s worthy in other ways…in not so many words, satisfying you with all the …uals. All this equality nonsense is distorting our nature. If she’s bringing out the card, then you might as well call it a friendly catch up.
Love BWNG, keep posting
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@20sumthingsteph, He killed himself steph he gave up and commited suicide lol. That line was hypothetical about the meals, not suggesting she should pay, more suggesting she would hv the same thoughtfulness for a mans finances as she would have for her own. Thx as always for da luv hope you voted!
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Brilliant post once again. What I think is that you should behave as you see fit if taking a female out for plush meals, dancing etc leaves you without food in your fridge then so be it but you have to ask yourself is she interested in ”you” or ”what you can do” for her?? I believe if she is interested in ”You” she will not mind where you go (as long as it ain’t mcdonalds because face it guys it ain’t going to work) but if she is interested in what you can do for her maybe she will kick up a fuss on why she will never go on a date to Nando’s
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I love this post, it says everything I have been telling my fellow brothers for a long time. I know there are a few rotten Apples out here, this doesn’t mean we are all rotten.
I have to hand it to women, they have got a lot of us in a figure 4 leg lock psycologically, they scream out “all men are worthless” “all the good men are taken” so much that we actually start to believe them. NO!!! you are just fishing in a swamp and expecting to catch whale.
As I used to tell girls (when i was single), I am not Tyrone from the ends, whot shots, wears doo rags, with jeans down to his ankles, I am husband material, a smart brother with morals, good looks and employed. I am a catch, step up or step off!
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Brothers, I’ve come across your blog and missed lunch today!lol..i love what you doing keep up the good work!!
The Don nailed it on this post..preach on bro!loool…best believe i’m gona share this(with your permission of course) send it to some sisters i know who need to hear the truth!loolP.s Romeo is dead coz he was a fool!
Someone give this man a medal of honour… co-sign!